Being single on Valentine's day

If you’re reading this blog, chances are you’re single. And right when you think you’ve gotten over your aunt’s uncomfortable ‘why are you still single?’ questions during the holiday season, Valentine’s Day comes around. We know that this day can be difficult for some of you, and we’re here to tell you that’s okay. We’ve gathered our best tips (from experience) below.

What even is Valentine's day? 🤔

We’ve all known and experienced it in some way, shape or form, but what even is Valentine’s Day? Was there once some dude named Valentine who gave everyone in the village roses on February 14th? Or is it just a holiday created with the sole purpose of selling you those very roses? Let’s dive in.

The story behind Valentine’s day 💌

Valentine's Day has a long and varied history. Much about how the holiday came to be remains a mystery. The exact details were lost in time and probably transformed quite a bit as romantics retold the story. It’s thought to have originated as a Christian feast day honoring Saint Valentine, who lived during the Roman Empire. Over time, it evolved into a day associated with romantic love and affection.

Valentine’s day nowadays 🌹

Nowadays, Valentine's Day is a day that celebrates romantic relationships and is filled with either grand or more subtle expressions of affection. Regardless, Valentine's Day has become a highly commercialized holiday. The pressure to buy gifts, make elaborate plans and post about it on social media has increased substantially.

Why marketeers love Valentine’s day 🤑

Marketeers and businesses eagerly jump on the Valentine's Day bandwagon because it's a profitable occasion. They capitalize on the idea that love can be expressed through material things like jewelry, flowers and chocolates. Let’s face it, even this piece of content is marketing. But don’t worry, we won't guilt trip you into buying anything. Pinky promise.

You're single on Valentine's day, now what? ✨

Knowing more about the day itself doesn’t tackle how being single on Valentine’s day might affect you. This can be completely different for everyone and there’s no right way to feel. Here are some tips on how to deal with whatever feelings you might be experiencing.

Feeling your emotions:

It's entirely normal to have mixed emotions when you're single on Valentine's Day. You might feel lonely, left out or even a little bit envious of friends in romantic relationships. It's crucial to acknowledge these feelings without judgment. Your emotions are completely valid and it’s okay that they’re there.

Understanding where your feelings come from:

Take some time to reflect on why you might be feeling a certain way. Are these feelings stemming from societal expectations, comparisons to others or your own desire for companionship? Understanding the root of your emotions can help you address them more effectively. Try and be as honest with yourself as possible here, no shame in the game!

Taking matters into your own hands:

You have the power to make this day special in your own way. Being single on Valentine's Day doesn't mean you can't celebrate love! Heck, you don’t even have to celebrate a thing if you don’t feel like it. Focus on yourself and your needs.

You're single on Valentine's day, so what? 💪

Now that we’ve established it is completely fine to be single on Valentine’s day and that whatever emotions that you’re feeling are valid, let’s have a look at things you can do for yourself on this day!

Hang out with friends

Spend some quality time with friends. Organize a fun gathering, movie night or dinner. Friendships are a beautiful form of love too.

Plan some me-time

Take the opportunity to hang out with yourself. Enjoy an at home spa day, read a good book, binge watch your favorite show or go to a museum. Do whatever you feel like doing.

Treat yourself

This one doesn’t even have to be in a materialistic way. Light that candle you’ve been saving, take the time to cook something nice for yourself or treat yourself to something small like a nice cup of coffee.

There’s no right way to feel 🧡

Being single on Valentine's Day is perfectly okay, and your feelings are valid. Whether you choose to celebrate with friends or indulge in self-care, remember that love comes in many forms, and it's important to love and appreciate yourself. So, go ahead and spend this day in whatever way feels right for you!

And when you're ready to explore the world of dating on your own terms, consider giving us a try - or don’t. It’s all up to you.